Ted, I can understand what you went through. I lost my Dad 10 years ago, and my Mother 11 months later, at 81, and 80 years of age. Neither wanted any heroics, nor did they wish to be in a condition to require a nursing home. I had no problems helping Mother make the decision about Dad and later about Mom. I work in a hospital and have seen so many that must try to keep their parents and loved ones alive at all costs, and really make them suffer , and wonder why. Death is a natural thing and will claim us all. Like you I just hope when my time comes I am allowed to receive it with dignity, and let it be not only a loss but a releif for my survivors.
