This poem has a great deal to say on the subject of parting with a loved one but in so very few words.

Now that I am dead cry for me a little,
Think of me sometimes.
But not too much!
Remember me now and again as I was in life,
at some moment when it is pleasant to recall, but not for long!
Leave me in peace, and I shall leave you in peace.
And while you live let your thoughts be with the living.

The only lessons in my life I truly did learn from where the ones I paid for!