Robert:
What can I say in answer to your several questions.
It seems to me that if a man feels offended, he has the right to ask for redress. If he allows an insult, perceived by some, to roll off his back, that, to me, is a signal that he is not bothered and wishes the matter to disappear.
I have not found it necessary to defend my friends very often and as I am so busy keeping myself in check, time is short to do so.:}
I ask of you the same as I did Joe.
Is this not the time to stand tall and let forgiveness, even without forgetting, be the proper course.
I rather doubt that, if you will simply refuse to banter, or lock horns, with either, they will be anxious to continue battle with you.
I ask that you go to your corner, nod to your opponent and leave the ring to some of us pros.LOL
Best,
John