may i suggest that you send his wife a copy of Joan Didion's book, "The Year of Magical Thinking"....it is a worthwhile read for anyone who has been thrown into the emotional abyss by the death of their spouse. a retired librarian friend gave me a copy after my first wife's death (June 16, 2010) and since that time i have given between 40 and 50 copies to friends, and some to strangers. it is not about religion or philosophy, simply about the realities of life, and focused on this particularly painful time.
my second wife died, February 8, 2021, and i struggle daily to maintain my balance and a positive outlook on "things". i have come to look on this as a part of my education....but, i am always saddened when i learn that someone else has been enrolled in this school. please convey my most sincere condolences to his family.
best regards,
tom
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