Builder, to a large extent I agree with you.
However I'm not tall only reaching around 5'9", this guy was at least 6'. Even after I became Roly-Poly (Fat) & went well above 200 lbs recoil still didn't bother me. I think a lot of the solution is to be certain the gun is snug into your shoulder & then learning to roll with the punch, don't try to Brace against it.
I once bought a new 20ga 3" double which was uncomfortable even with the
2˝-1 loads. It came with a recoil pad that was spongy soft. I changed it out to a firmer pad & after that was a mere pussy cat, even shot a few of the 3" mags through it & was not as bad had been previously with the lighter loads. That spongy pad just gave it "Jumping Room".
